Urinary leaks affect 1 in 3 women after age 40. In this article, you will discover the 4 main types of incontinence (stress, urgency, mixed, and overflow), their real causes (pregnancy, menopause, excess weight, high-impact sports), and most importantly, when to see a healthcare professional. You will also find immediate solutions to reduce leaks starting today: Kegel exercises, lifestyle adjustments, and choosing the right protection. With the right diagnosis and the right solutions, 80 to 90% of women regain a satisfying quality of life.
Urinary leaks are not exactly something you casually bring up over coffee. And yet, if you are here reading this, know this: you are truly not alone. One in three women after 40 is affected. Yes, one in three.
The problem is that many women wait months, even years, before they dare to talk about it with their doctor. You tell yourself it is normal after childbirth, that you are too young for this, or on the contrary that it is just “age.” But the truth is: solutions exist for almost every type of urinary leak.
In this guide, we are going to look together at why these leaks happen, how to identify them accurately, and most importantly, when it truly becomes necessary to seek medical advice. Because yes, in 80 to 90% of cases, simple and non-invasive solutions work very well.
Urinary incontinence in women: what exactly is it?
A urinary leak, or urinary incontinence, is an involuntary loss of urine. It can range from a few drops when you cough to larger amounts you cannot hold back. It is not a disease in itself, but rather a sign that something is no longer working the way it used to in your bladder or pelvic floor.
In women, anatomy plays an important role. Our urethra is much shorter than men’s (about 1.6 inches vs. 7.9 inches), which naturally makes continence control more delicate. And the pelvic floor goes through a lot of pressure throughout life: pregnancy, childbirth, menopause. All of that puts our muscles under real strain.
Female urinary leaks: reassuring numbers
You are truly not alone in this situation. Take a look at these statistics:
Between 35 and 40% of women over 40 experience urinary leaks. 70% of pregnant women have episodes of leakage during pregnancy, especially in the third trimester. Half of women who deliver vaginally have mild incontinence in the 3 months following childbirth. But only 30% of affected women see a doctor within the first year.
These numbers show two things: it is very common, but it is also widely undertreated. Many women believe they have to live with it. They do not.
The 4 types of urinary incontinence in women
Not all incontinence is the same. Identifying your exact type is the key to finding the right solution. Let us go through it in detail.
Stress incontinence: the most common in women
This is by far the most common type. You leak when you do a physical effort that increases pressure in your abdomen: coughing, sneezing, laughing, lifting something heavy, running, jumping. Stress incontinence represents about 50% of female incontinence cases.
Why does it happen? Your pelvic floor muscles and your urethral sphincter are no longer toned enough to hold urine back when pressure rises suddenly. It is often linked to a difficult delivery (especially with forceps or a baby over 8.8 lbs), a multiple pregnancy, menopause, excess weight, or very intense sports practice.
What does it look like in real life? You lose a few drops to a few milliliters of urine, only during effort. There is no sudden urge beforehand. It is often worse at the end of the day or when your bladder is full.
Solutions that work: pelvic floor rehab works in 70% of cases for this type. Losing weight if you are overweight also helps a lot. And while you are waiting for rehab results, wearing women’s incontinence underwear allows you to live normally without stress.
Urgency incontinence (urge incontinence)
This is different. You feel a sudden, unstoppable urge to urinate. Like, right now. If you cannot get to a restroom immediately, you leak. This represents about 20% of cases.
Why does it happen? Your bladder contracts involuntarily and unpredictably, even if it is not full. This is called an overactive bladder. Causes can include recurrent urinary tract infections, bladder irritation from smoking, coffee, or alcohol, neurological disorders, diabetes, or pelvic organ prolapse.
What does it look like? The urge is urgent and hard to control. Leaks are often larger (about 1.7 to 6.8 fl oz). You need to urinate very often during the day (more than 8 times), and you wake up several times at night.
Solutions that work: bladder training helps you regain control. Medication may be prescribed in some cases. For heavier leaks, ultra-absorbent underwear like what Orykas offers (up to 10 fl oz of absorption) keeps you fully protected, day and night.
Mixed incontinence
As the name suggests, this is a mix of the two types above. You have both stress leaks AND uncontrollable urgency. It affects about 25% of women with incontinence, and it can be especially frustrating because symptoms vary a lot depending on the time of day and the situation.
Why does it happen? Often after years of untreated stress incontinence, or during menopause when the drop in estrogen affects both muscle tone and the bladder lining.
Solutions that work: you need a combined approach with both pelvic floor rehab AND bladder training. Local hormone treatment is sometimes recommended by your gynecologist. As for protection, you need to adapt based on your daily activities.
Overflow incontinence
This is the least common form in women (under 5% of cases), but it requires real medical care quickly. Your bladder never empties fully and ends up “overflowing” continuously.
Why does it happen? Severe prolapse can compress the urethra and prevent normal emptying. Neurological disorders can stop the bladder from contracting properly. Certain medications can also cause this problem.
What does it look like? You constantly feel like your bladder is full, even right after using the restroom. Leaks are continuous, drop by drop. Your urine stream is weak, and you sometimes need to push to get anything out.
Solutions that work: in this case, you truly need to see a doctor or urologist quickly. The professional must treat the underlying cause, because leaving it untreated can lead to infections or kidney problems.
Female urinary leaks: the main causes
Pregnancy and childbirth
During pregnancy, the weight of the baby, placenta, and amniotic fluid constantly presses on your bladder and pelvic floor. This pressure weakens muscles, especially in the third trimester when the baby is heavier. According to French medical studies, nearly 70% of pregnant women experience at least a few leakage episodes during pregnancy.
After a vaginal delivery, the pelvic floor has been significantly stretched. Imagine a rubber band that is pulled very hard: sometimes it stays stretched. Sometimes there are even tiny microscopic muscle tears you cannot see but that weaken the whole area. If your baby weighed over 8.8 lbs, if forceps or a vacuum were used, or if you had tearing or an episiotomy, the risks are even higher.
The numbers are clear: between 30 and 50% of women leak in the first 3 months after giving birth. But the good news is that 70% regain normal continence after well-managed pelvic floor rehab. That is also why postpartum rehab is covered by French Social Security: its effectiveness is proven, and it reduces long-term incontinence risk by 60%.
Urinary incontinence after menopause
During menopause, the sharp drop in estrogen is the key issue. These hormones help maintain pelvic muscle tone, tissue elasticity around the urethra and bladder, and the health of the bladder lining, which becomes more sensitive.
Result: 40 to 50% of postmenopausal women develop some form of incontinence, usually stress or mixed. That does not mean it is irreversible. A local hormone treatment (low-dose estrogen cream) prescribed by your gynecologist can really help. Pelvic floor rehab remains effective after 50. And activities like Pilates or yoga help strengthen the entire pelvic floor.
Excess weight: a major aggravating factor
Every extra pound puts constant additional pressure on your pelvic floor, 24/7. Overweight women are 2 to 3 times more likely to develop stress incontinence than women at a healthy weight.
But here is excellent news from a major study published in the New England Journal of Medicine: losing just 5 to 10% of your body weight can reduce leaks by 50%. Concretely, if you weigh about 165 lbs and you lose about 11 lbs, you can see a truly significant improvement in symptoms.
Female urinary leaks after 40: high-impact sports
Sports that create repeated impact on the pelvic floor are not your best friends when you already leak. Running, CrossFit, trampoline, volleyball, and similar sports all put heavy strain on the pelvic floor. Among elite athletes, up to 80% report occasional leakage during exercise.
But be careful: exercise is not your enemy. The goal is not to stop being active. It is about adapting intelligently. Strengthen your pelvic floor in parallel with targeted exercises. Wear appropriate women’s incontinence protection during workouts to stay confident. Temporarily avoid overly intense training if your pelvic floor is already weakened. And prioritize gentler activities like swimming, cycling, or brisk walking during recovery.
Recurrent urinary tract infections
Frequent cystitis is frustrating for more than one reason. Beyond the immediate discomfort, it irritates your bladder and can cause temporary overactivity, with urgent urges and urgency leaks. It becomes a vicious cycle: infection → bladder irritation → overactivity → leaks → moisture → new infection. You need to break the cycle by treating infections properly and taking preventive steps.
Other causes to know
Chronic constipation damages the pelvic floor because repeated straining weakens it similarly to a difficult delivery. Smoking contributes to chronic coughing that constantly stresses the pelvic floor, which is why smokers have twice the risk. Some medications like diuretics increase urine production, and antidepressants can affect bladder tone. Neurological diseases such as multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s, or stroke after-effects disrupt the nerve signals that control the bladder. And prolapse, the descent of pelvic organs, compresses the urethra or disrupts normal sphincter function.
In most cases, it is not one single cause but a combination of several factors that creates the problem.
Urinary incontinence in women: when should you see a doctor?
Warning signs that require a quick appointment
Schedule an appointment within 48 hours if you have a fever along with the leaks (this can indicate a kidney infection). If you see blood in your urine. If you feel significant pain when urinating, not just mild discomfort. If the leaks appeared suddenly overnight for no obvious reason. If you feel unusual heaviness in the lower abdomen along with difficulty fully emptying your bladder. Or if you also have unusual vaginal discharge.
Situations that justify an appointment in the coming weeks
Schedule an appointment soon if leaks are truly affecting your daily life. For example, you avoid outings with friends, you no longer dare to do certain activities, or it impacts your mood. If you leak every day or several times per day for several weeks. If you wake up more than twice per night to urinate (this is called nocturia and it is not normal). If you have been wearing protection daily for more than 3 months. If leaks prevent you from exercising even though you love it. If you avoid certain outings purely out of fear. If leaks started after childbirth and persist beyond 3 months. Or if you are over 60 and symptoms are gradually getting worse.
Which professional should you see first?
Your primary care doctor is often the best starting point. They can make an initial diagnosis, order a simple urine test to rule out infection, prescribe pelvic floor rehab sessions (covered), or refer you to a specialist if the situation is more complex.
A midwife can also be highly skilled in treating female incontinence, not only after childbirth. She can provide full pelvic floor rehab (covered in France), perform a complete pelvic assessment with precise muscle testing, and give you truly personalized exercises. She may also use biofeedback, a system that lets you visualize your muscle contractions on a screen, which is very effective for learning.
A physical therapist specialized in pelvic health is someone who has specific training in the pelvic floor. They use biofeedback, electrical stimulation if your muscles are very weak (it passively stimulates the muscles), and precise manual techniques. Typically, plan for 10 to 20 sessions reimbursed at 60% by French Social Security, with the remaining portion covered by your supplemental insurance.
For more complex cases or cases that do not respond to first-line treatments, a gynecologist, urologist, or urogynecologist (a specialist in pelvic floor disorders) can perform a complete urodynamic evaluation. This test measures how your bladder functions in detail. They can also diagnose prolapse, offer local hormone treatment if you are in menopause, or consider second-line treatments such as injections or, as a last resort, surgery.
Tests you might undergo
During the appointment, the doctor or midwife will do a clinical exam to evaluate your pelvic floor tone. It can feel a bit awkward, but it is quick and not painful. They will test muscle strength when you contract, check for prolapse, and assess pelvic reflexes.
The urine culture test is a simple urine analysis that helps detect a possible infection or microscopic blood.
The bladder diary is a very useful tool that you complete at home for 3 to 7 days. You write down the time of each restroom visit, the approximate volume (you can use a measuring cup at first), leakage episodes, what triggered them, and what you drank during the day. This simple tool helps the doctor understand your specific pattern.
In some more complex cases, a urodynamic evaluation may be recommended. This specialized test, done by a urologist, measures detailed bladder function: maximum capacity, pressure during filling, contraction quality during urination, and sphincter function. It lasts 30 to 45 minutes, is a bit uncomfortable but not truly painful, and is done outpatient (you go home the same day).
A pelvic ultrasound may also be ordered to visualize the bladder (wall thickness, whether urine remains after voiding), the uterus, the ovaries, possible prolapse, and bladder mobility when you cough.
treatments for female urinary leaks
Adjust your lifestyle starting today
For hydration, drink about 50 fl oz of water per day, no more and no less. Drinking too much does not help, it just overloads your bladder. Avoid drinking large amounts at once, and spread it throughout the day. Seriously limit coffee (max 2 cups per day), black tea, alcohol, and soda, because they are all bladder irritants. Choose still water and gentle herbal teas like chamomile or verbena.
For diet, fight constipation by eating fiber (fruit, vegetables, whole grains) and drinking enough. Limit very spicy foods that irritate the bladder. Avoid artificial sweeteners (aspartame, sucralose) found in diet sodas and sugar-free gum, they can significantly irritate the bladder. Reduce salt, which promotes water retention and increases abdominal pressure.
Adopt a healthy bathroom rhythm: go every 3 to 4 hours, no more and no less. Do not hold it excessively for 5 to 6 hours, but do not “just in case” empty your bladder every 30 minutes either. Take time to fully empty your bladder each time, do not rush. A small tip: lean slightly forward at the end of urination, it helps empty more completely.
Start Kegel exercises right now
These simple exercises strengthen the pelvic floor and can reduce mild leaks within a few weeks if done correctly and consistently.
To identify the right muscles, sit on the toilet and try to stop your urine stream mid-flow. The muscles you contract in that moment are your pelvic floor muscles. But be careful: do not do this every time you urinate. This is only to identify the muscles once. Repeating it can cause problems.
The correct Kegel method: contract your pelvic floor as if you were trying to hold in gas. Hold the contraction for 5 seconds while breathing normally (do not hold your breath). Fully relax for 10 seconds (this rest time matters, do not skip it). Repeat this sequence 10 times in a row. Do 3 sessions per day: morning, midday, and evening.
At first, start lying on your back with knees bent, it is the easiest position. When it becomes easier, do the exercises sitting on a chair. And once you feel more comfortable, you can do them standing, or even while walking.
Common mistakes to avoid: do not tighten your abs, glutes, or thighs at the same time. The contraction should be isolated in the pelvic floor. Do not hold your breath, keep breathing normally. Do not push downward, that is the opposite of what you want. And do not do 50 reps in a row thinking more is better, you will just fatigue the muscles.
If you do these exercises correctly and consistently, you should see a 60 to 70% improvement after 6 to 8 weeks of dedicated practice.
Female urinary protection: choose the right solution
While you wait for your appointment and treatments to take effect (it always takes at least a few weeks), wearing discreet and truly effective protection helps you stay confident and live normally without constant stress.
What to look for in good protection: absorption truly matched to your leak intensity (do not choose a bulky diaper if you only have a few drops). Breathable materials that prevent moisture, irritation, and odor. Something truly discreet under all clothing, whether jeans, a dress, or leggings. And all-day comfort, without that thick-diaper feeling.
Orykas ultra-absorbent underwear for women is specially designed for female incontinence. For light to moderate leaks (from a few drops up to about 1.7 fl oz), there is the mid-rise model for everyday comfort, and lace-finish models (high-waisted or side-lace) for elegance. They all absorb up to 3.4 fl oz.
For heavier leaks (about 1.7 to 10 fl oz), the ultra-absorbent model with its 7 absorbent layers can hold up to 10 fl oz, the equivalent of a full glass of water. It is perfect for heavier urgency leaks or for nighttime.
All these models are made with natural bamboo fiber that feels truly soft and hypoallergenic. They are OEKO-TEX certified, which guarantees no harmful substances. You simply wash them in the machine at 86°F, they dry quickly (4 to 6 hours air-drying), and they last 2 to 3 years with daily use.
From a cost perspective, it is truly worth it: disposable protection costs about 25€ per month, or 300€ per year. A pack of washable Orykas underwear lasts 2 to 3 years. You save several hundred euros over time. And it is also eco-friendly: zero waste, no disposable protection to throw away every day.
These underwear let you live normally, keep your routines, see friends, exercise, and do everything you want while pelvic rehab or medical treatment reaches full effectiveness.
To conclude
Female urinary incontinence is not something you have to resign yourself to. Whether you are 30, 50, or 70, whether it started after childbirth, during menopause, or for no obvious reason, there are truly effective and accessible solutions.
The key points to remember from this guide: you are absolutely not alone (1 in 3 women after 40). It is not “normal” to have to “live with it,” there are solutions. In 80 to 90% of cases, you can significantly improve or completely resolve the problem. Identifying your exact type of incontinence is the first crucial step. Causes are often multiple and combined. Seeking help early gives you access to simple, non-invasive solutions. Pelvic floor rehab works in 70% of stress incontinence cases. And modern, comfortable protection exists so you can live confidently throughout treatment.
Your next concrete steps: identify your type of incontinence using the detailed descriptions in this article. Start Kegel exercises today, they are free and low-risk. Adjust your hydration (about 50 fl oz per day) and your diet (less coffee, alcohol, and spicy foods). Choose women’s incontinence protection adapted to your leak level to regain confidence immediately. Schedule an appointment with your primary care doctor, a midwife, or a pelvic health physical therapist in the coming days. And follow the prescribed treatment with consistency and commitment.
In 90% of cases, women regain a truly satisfying quality of life. The first step toward recovery is to stop keeping it to yourself, talk to a professional, and take concrete action. You deserve to live without limitations, without constant discomfort, and with full confidence.


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